Dating a man whose divorce is not final
A divorce decree does not mean someone is ready to date, and not having a divorce decree yet does not mean someone isn’t ready to date.
My specific advice for my two readers (above) is: 1.
That said, the cheating probably happened because one or both people weren’t happy in the marriage, so again, the decision to separate wasn’t really an overnight decision. You don’t decide to move forward with a divorce, go to court the next week and then sign the papers the week after.
The divorce process can take months, even years, because it is a very very complicated, rollercoaster process where emotions and children and finances collide.
In any case, they have their reasons for not wanting to date a guy who isn’t officially divorced. A couple doesn’t just decide one day that they want to get separated.
Well, I have my reasons too, when I say that I think people who won’t date someone who isn’t officially divorced could truly be missing out. In most cases, they have been unhappy for months, years, even decades.
” but rather, “Does he seem emotionally ready for a relationship? ” Those questions are more important than a piece of paper showing that your divorce is final (in my opinion.) I will say this.
I have been married for 27 years and have two grown children. I’m a 27 year old woman dating a recently separated (going through a divorce) dad.
The point I’m trying to make is, if someone decides to start dating when they are not officially divorced, no one should judge them.
Chances are, they have spent years unhappy, feeling lonely, knowing the marriage was over, and grieving it. ” “Is he using a girlfriend as a quick fix for getting over his divorce?
I think it would be very difficult to go back to being platonic friends with her boyfriend, so my advice would be to take things very slowly, continue to enjoy the relationship, but stay out of his divorce.
Let him vent and listen to him, be there for him, but don’t get emotionally involved or give advice. Lastly, I think her boyfriend has been mourning the end of his marriage for 2 years, and I think their relationship isn’t hurting anyone.
We became fast friends, bonding through shared interests.