Good body language dating

Thomas has an acronym that he uses with his clients: SOLD — Smiling, Open Body Language, Leaning, Direction.

Basically, keep a friendly face, an open body posture, and point your body toward your date.

If you go for a hug and your date pulls away, you have tried to get too intimate too quickly.

Bonus points if you sniff one of these essential oils to get yourself in the loved-up mood. But don’t go too far—Kershaw says there are social norms for displaying sexual interest during an initial meeting with someone, and being too flirty can be a turnoff for some people.

“Flirtatious glances, eyebrow flashes, fixing your clothes without necessity, or presenting your chest could negatively impact the impression you make on your date,” Kershaw says.

Ben also recommends “smizing,” which any fan of America’s Next Top Model will remember means “smiling with your eyes” and Thomas told me that before he met his wife, he used to put on his favorite playlists to listen to in the shower before getting done up in his favorite threads in preparation for a date.

(He also used to do push-ups to get the adrenaline pumping but I won’t judge you if you want to just stick to the fun music and power poses.)Thomas’ number one tip for body language on a first date is to “break the physical barrier,” which is dating coach-speak for “touch your date.” He points out that the biggest difference between friends and partners is physicality and that the way we touch a friend differs from the way we touch a romantic prospect. Simple: Hug.“You’re not here for a meeting,” Thomas tells Bustle.

But anyone who has ever had a random person keep touching them after they’ve given all the signals that they’re not interested knows just how often people mess up this tip.