Only dating week
As long as I make working out a priority and use all my time efficiently, it’s totally doable.It might be another hour a day I don’t spend with my boyfriend, but I don’t think he really minds. It might sound bad, but him being at my place for too long kind of cramps my style.We were friends for 6 months prior to dating, so you could say I knew what I was getting into: that he's very busy with other things in his life.I know he's trying, but at what point does being busy become an excuse?He doesn’t have anything to do here, so he expects me to feed him and entertain him. One week really isn’t a long time to go without seeing the guy I’m dating.That means it’s harder for me to do get anything done. I think it’s important for us to be able to function on our own and have our own lives — that means when we are spending time together, we really want to be, and it’s not just the default. I’m used to having a lot of my own space, so I can’t just jump into seeing someone every day.Just because I’m not busy with work doesn’t mean I automatically want to be hanging out with my boyfriend. Fitting everything in isn’t always easy, but it’s important to me that I still have a social life.
By night, she's a freelance lifestyle writer who, in addition to Bolde.com, contributes regularly to Among Men.ca, and She Blogs Canada.If I just see him once a week, I have no problem putting work and my routines aside because I want to hang out with him — not because I have no choice. I’m pretty confident that I’d lose my mind and start to feel smothered if we suddenly started seeing each other too often.I’m sure as our relationship progresses we’ll gradually start spending more time together, but it will be because it feels natural, not because it’s what you’re “supposed to do.” I want someone who has his own life too.At first that was okay, but at some point I'm going to want more.He texts and checks in everyday, but I'm lucky if I get so much as a phone call since we started seeing each other (he used to call every other night, at least).